From the conflict in the family - to harmony in relations
Let's think over and look at the situation differently. Indeed, the conflict in the family and other aspects of life is doesn't always carry a negative side because it always makes some changes. And even in some cases can serve as a kind of antidepressant in your monotonous life.
In a sparked conflict spouses often begin, so to speak to deviate from the topic, which was the cause. During the dispute, they remember all that they have accumulated, but forgot or deferred for later, in the hope that everything will get better. This is wrong. Clarify in your head at once what you want to clear up and deal with the problem that has arisen in this situation at the moment, and not what you have already accumulated for a long time and decided to unload all this your on the poor husband (wife). It is also not worth to threat, for example: "If you don't tidy up the room today, I will go away for the whole day, leaving you with a small child and will not respond to calls" or "I am really tired, I demand a divorce". Agree, the more you tell this, the less it will work in the future, and secondly, once you will have to keep your promise.
I propose to do another thing. Having a presentiment of the coming conflict in the family, think over, what and how you are going to say. Then the conversation will not contain a negative connotation, but on the contrary, you will slug it out quietly and peacefully. Can you call it a conflict? Of course not. This is simply an explanation to your partner what you would like to change in this situation, and what solutions can be found by a joint effort. Make the so-called self-examination. Yes it is difficult especially when inside you all boils with anger. And who has said that life is easy? Is it easy to think twice before saying something? Especially when it happens during the conflict situation: it requires effort, control of emotions, but you will see that it will produce positive effect. And in the future you will see that avoiding of conflict in the family situation is much easier in a calm atmosphere, simply explaining your grievances and looking for ways of resolving them together. Thus, you can hear each other and understand the discontent of your spouse.
So, taking advantage of all the rules above, you undoubtedly will be able to resolve conflicts within the family without turning to insults and humiliation. It will allow you to strengthen your relationships and quickly resolve the accumulated problems, without resorting to "family battle". Good luck to you and have a harmonious family life!
